TO WIFE A QUEEN VS DATING BAD BITCHES

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The other day I posted a rant about not wanting to date average looking women anymore. All of that came from my bad personal experiences. I’m not saying all women who are so-called 5s, 6s, and 7s aren’t dating material. There are some women who aren’t physically stunning, but their personalities make them dime pieces. But alas, I haven’t been fortunate to date such women because many of them are already taken, we just don’t vibe, they have ugly personalities (what I mainly came across), or I’m not their type.

Whatever the case, since I am attracted to women who are aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I’m attracted to those who claim to be bad b***hes. So with that being said, if I ever do settle down that woman can’t be ugly. But she can’t just be beautiful outside, her inside (spirit and personality) especially her mind must be sharp. I want a woman who physically would be considered a “bad b***h”, but with how she is on the inside, you’d be proud to make her wifey.

QUEENS BE LIKE…

Some guys confuse a queen with just having physical beauty, while possessing a strong and bold personality. But there is much more to that, and hopefully this will help explain things better.

A queen is someone who not only won’t tolerate nonsense, but will let you know in the most diplomatic of tones that you’re better than what you believe you are. She may not be a 10 in the face, but she looks great when she’s dressed to kill. Her body may be a 10 now, but because she she wants to grow old with you, she’ll push to keep up.

A queen submits to the right king, and not a man claiming to be king ding-a-ling to all women he sleeps with. She knows that cooperation, the true definition of submission, is her greatest trump card to be played when in the presence of a wise man. A queen knows to be quiet, and knows when to speak. And when she speaks, a man of substance must listen for she is his best teammate and business partner.

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A queen isn’t a master chef, be she can cook. A queen isn’t a sex goddess, but she’s willing to try things for each of your pleasures. A queen may not be a fitness expert, but she at least tries doing the right things health wise and pushes you to do the same. A queen is some one you make long term plans with. A queen gets to meet grandma, your parents and them during the holidays.

There are some queens who are rare breeds. The kind of woman who is cute, and could be with just about any guy she chooses to be with. But because she believes in you, this rare breed will have your back through hell and high water. This kind of woman, if you find her, please don’t drop the ball with her. She will help you build, and in time you both shall rule an empire of your own.

If you want a woman of this caliber, you yourself must be a man of substance. In my book,Dragonflies in the Swamp, I break this down in the “Females, Love & Lust” chapter if I’m not mistaken. But nonetheless, if you’re s**t ain’t together then how do you expect to land an empress/queen?

BAD B***HES BE LIKE… 

Bad b***hes are cool to date, but not one to keep around for long. Bad b***hes may carry emotional baggage and other insecurities, while some have attitudes and/or are just plain crazy.

Many of these kinds figure that their bodies and sexuality are their best assets. The craftier ones figure out how turn a guy on through the art of seduction, using your lust to keep you hooked onto her. They’ll flirt and touch, sex you up, turn you out, and then be affectionate having you think that you’re in love. From time to time they’ll cop an attitude, being passive-aggressive so you can make up with them by being an even bigger trick. And when your money is gone, she is gone until you get your weight back up.

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Some bad b***hes hit the gym, and know how to cook and eat right. At least 1/3 of them don’t do any of the former. After they have a kid or two, they’re bodies go out of whack, flipping from B.A.B (bad ass b***h) to B.M.W (Body Made Wrong) quicker than you think.

Bad b***hes like to travel, party, have fun, drink alcohol, some like getting high, but nearly all bad b***hes love spending money. Some know how to get their money the right way. But for the most part, they’ll find a guy (or a few guys) who don’t mind paying their bills, taking them on shopping sprees, handling vacation expenses, and other sucker trick-john s**t I don’t be on.

Some of these type of women have college degrees and careers, while a very few actually read and seek knowledge. But with nearly all bad b***hes, you take them out and just have a lust filled sexual tryst with them. And when the few nights or few weeks, to even a few months of you smashing gets boring, you move onto the next one.

All in all (besides sex) they’re cool to ask certain superficial advice, or gossip if you’re that kind of Chatty Patty type dude. In the end their cons out weigh their pros. So until they change key things about themselves, learning to be more conservative, they shall never be wifey material.

THE FEMININE CHARGES

For any of these women, be it a queen/empress or a bad b***h, you must have your money and/or life in order. Queens need to be taken care of, especially if you plan on having a family with them. And most bad b***hes want to be wined and dined — tricked on like the roundabout prostitutes that they are.

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So focus on gaining knowledge, and knowing how and when to apply this knowledge because power is the greatest aphrodisiac in the world. Even if you look like Frankenstein, if you’re finances are in order, and you call shots in your field then women will bow down. Bad b***hes will flirt, while queens hope to have you pursuit her.

If your moral compass isn’t compromised completely, a queen is what you shall seek. If you’re getting money, and just want to have relations without the relationship then a bad b***h is what you must approach. Either way, get yourself together, and always remember the differences between these two types of women.

Building Proposal for Phoenix & Glendale, AZ

 

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE

(NATIONAL CHURCH)

Our Moto is Global Afrikan/Black & Brown Unification thru Love

 

1628 Francis Av. S E Grand Rapids, MI  49507

1.800.354.4131 cell 602.585.8491

https://africanpeopleoflove.wordpress.com

 

 

 

Building Specifies:

 

This proposal is for the African People of Love (APOL) National Church

A Global (Afrikan/Black & Brown) Unification Organization

 

We are making a proposal to secure a space that will allow us to establish a based educational & entertainment Center, which shall be use for unifying and building love relationships between the Youth and Elders of Phoenix, Glendale AZ, we are a Non-Profit Organization, that desires to revitalize the rich Afrikan Heritage, that has been lost, stolen or never known.

 

As a Community, based Center, we will offer a Martial Arts Program on a trial basis for Thirteen weeks.  There would be four different classes offered, these classes would be Adult Tai Chi, Wolf Pak for Children, Sparring for yellow belts and Wisdom’s of the Art for all ages. This class is taught by Our Martial Arts Instructor Sister Fundi Fe.

 

We will also be offering Traditional Afrikan dancing and Drum Classes, our teachers pride themselves in teaching Traditional Afrikan Culture thru motion.  This educational art form is taught thru traditional dance, drums, song and spirit. 

 

The classes are set up for a combination of one to two hour increments. 

 

They begin with:

  1. Community circle (this consist of exchanging of names).
  2. Afrikan history (about the particular rhythm for the day).
  3. Warm-up, exercise pertaining to the dance
  4. Interactive dance instruction.
  5. Cool-down
  6. Close-out (including announcements)

 

The class is taught in traditional clothing of the African Culture. The songs are taught in the traditional language.  This is a revival for the respect to the village (your community). 

 

Our goal is to unite and enhance the respect for all ethnicities and we can only do that by learning to respect one another.  Our interaction creates life long bonds that unite the community thru the love of the Culture and the heartbeat of the drums.  This social art form of dance is a fun way to exercise that builds self esteem and enriches their life with the knowledge of traditions that have been passed down, they will be held by _________________________. 

 

We also promote and teach love and unity thru the Scriptures, baptizing (teaching) them in the name of love, the living love with and thru the holy character of love.  Our place is a place for those who are serious about living in Love and Truth with one another.  Our studies are not given to condemn anyone nor have they been written to promote the organization or some denomination.

 

A gymnasium is preferred, about the size of a dance studio or an area that can be built to suite or a room with a wooden floor (the class are taught in bare feet).  The room should be large enough to accommodate twenty plus students and three to six drum troop members (50×60 ft minimal).

 

It must be an area where sound is not a problem (we dance to live drums).

 

Handicap accessible facilities, that we may welcome community fellowship that unites neighbors in Love.

 

We must United as One People; it is only thru our coming together as ONE will we be able to free all.  Let us Unity Now!  Let us stand as one!  Will we be hearing from you or will you sit back and just talk Unity? 

Let us see if you are ready to Unite.  You can contact us by phone or email. You may also visit our site @: www.africanpeopleoflove.wordpress.com

 

Yours truly,

 CEO/Eliyah X.

President/Supreme

Black Histroy: I can do all things through my Afrikan nation which strengtheneth me.

 

Unity:

Is defined as the state of being undivided or unbroken completeness or totality with nothing wanting and this is what the African People of Love strive for UNITY!  We strive for an Undivided or Unbroken relationship with one another as people of Afrikan Descent.  When we say Afrikaans, “We mean all Afrikan beings everywhere”, global Afrika and the Diaspora.  We seek the lost sheep of Afrika, I don’t care where my Afrikan family may be we desire to Unite as One people, to stop the division —all that are of an African Descent and willing to repent of their wrongs towards their Afrikan Nation.

 

My people we are lost sheep: our shepherds have caused us to go astray, they have turned us away from one another: we have gone from nation to nation, we have forgotten our resting place. We as Afrikaans are scattered sheep; the lions (Europeans and Asian) have driven us away (from the love of one another): first the king of Assyria hath devoured us; and last this Obama President of Babylon (America) hath broken our bones.

 

We have gone astray like a lost sheep; seek thy people; for you do not forget our commandments (to love one another as our real spiritual leaders love us).

All of us like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to our own way; and our turning away from one another hath laid on us the iniquity of us all.

When I look at the multitudes, I am moved with compassion for them, because they fainted, and are scattered abroad, as sheep having no shepherd.

I come for the lost sheep of the house of Afrika.

I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Afrika.

For the Son of Afrika is come to save that which was lost.

 

Now think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and go into the mountains, and seek that which is gone astray?  And if so be that he find it, verily I say unto you, he rejoices more of that sheep, than of the ninety and nine which went not astray.  What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it? And when he hath found it, he laid it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he cometh home, he called together his friends and neighbors, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep which was lost.

 

Now I tell you, that likewise joy shall be in Afrika over one Afrikan that repented, more than over ninety and nine just Afrikaans, which need no repentance.  For were you not as sheep going astray at one time in your life; but are now returned unto the love of your people who are the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.

 

For the pastors are become brutish, and have not sought Afrika: therefore they shall not prosper, and all their flocks shall be scattered. For both prophet and priest are profane; yea, in my house (those of Afrikan descent) have I found their wickedness, saith the Nation of Afrika.  Wherefore their way shall be unto them as slippery ways in the European mindset: for I will bring evil upon them, even the year of their visitation, saith the Nation of Afrika.  And I have seen folly in the prophets of America; they prophesied in Baal, and caused my people of Afrikan descent to err.  I have seen also in the prophets of Afrika a horrible thing: they commit adultery, and walk in lies: they strengthen also the hands of evildoers, that none doth return from his wickedness: they are all of them unto me as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah.

 

Therefore thus say the People of Afrika concerning the prophets; Behold, I will feed them with wormwood, and make them drink the water of gall: for from the prophets of Afrika is profaneness gone forth into all the land.  His watchmen are blind: they are all ignorant, they are all dumb dogs, they cannot bark; sleeping, lying down, loving to slumber.  Yea, they are greedy dogs which can never have enough, and they are shepherds that cannot understand: they all look to their own way, every one for his gain, from his quarter.  Come ye, say they, I will fetch wine, and we will fill ourselves with strong drink; and to morrow shall be as this day, and much more abundant.  The diseased have they not strengthened, neither have they healed that which was sick, neither have they bound up that which was broken, neither have they brought again that which was driven away, neither have they sought that which was lost; but with force and with cruelty have they ruled them.  And we are scattered, because there is no shepherd: and we become meat to all the beasts (leaders) of the field (world), when we are scattered.

 

Now that lost sheep, that Blackman or Black woman who seeks the acceptance of others rather than the acceptance of their own people, is the one we desire to find.

 

We have the quality of being united into one. Unity can denote a combining of all the parts, elements and individuals into an effective whole. It is applicable to people and objects forming whole notions of any concept. It implies oneness when there is a certain usual division.  So, let us seek the lost sheep of Afrika so that we the people may be fitted frame together.  I am against the shepherds; and I will require my flock at their hand, and cause them to cease from feeding the flock; neither shall the shepherds feed themselves any more; for I will deliver my flock from their mouth, that they may not be meat for them.

 Behold, I, even I, will both search for my people, the lost sheep of Afrika, and seek them out. As a shepherd seek out his flock in the day that he is among his sheep that are scattered; so will I seek out the sheep of Afrika, and will deliver them out of all places where they have been scattered in the cloudy and dark day.

Feed the flock of the slaughter with the knowledge of who they are.  For my people perish for lack of knowledge;

Those of us who are awaken Save our lost Brothers and Sisters whose possessors slay them, and hold themselves not guilty: and they that sell them say, Blessed they be; for I am rich: and their own shepherds pity them not.

 

The last day is coming and is here:  The time will come when the horn will blow and all will meet for the Exodus and we will no more pity the evil Shepherds of the land,: but, lo, we will deliver the men every one into his neighbor’s hand, and into the hand of his king: and they shall smite the land, and out of their hand we will not deliver them.

 

                                                                   by

                                                                   Eliyah X.

                                                                   African People of Love

The NCAPL official pledge to the flag

The NCAPL official pledge to the flag. It should be used in all official NCAPL meetings and gatherings.

The pledge can be used by all nationalist organizations.

I commit my body, mind, and Spirit to
the protection, defense and security of the Red, Black and Green.

I dedicate my life to the redemption
of Mother Africa and the Liberation of her
scattered Black children.

I accept for myself and my descendants
the teachings of Universal African Nationalism
and I promise that our children will be instilled with
the purpose and knowledge of themselves as African People
in order that the cause of our struggle
will neither falter nor fail
until all Black people are free and united through

One God, One Aim, and One Destiny.

The Goal and Objective of the African People of Love Repatriation Movement
The goal and objective of the African People of Love Repatriation Movement (AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE) is to be True and Real when contemplating and analyzing the Cause and Effect that have come and still is coming from those others that is different from what is commonly known as Black pigmented Beings, so I will list our goal and objective and give reason for such thoughts, as all is in the interest of Afrika and Black Afrikaans Liberation.

First allow me to say that , since we reached the action that caused the termination of our First Way of Life Living on this planet, a life of Divine Harmony, Order, And balance, the Black Life second way of Living has been without the Divinity of Harmony, Order, And Balance, because others without the same pigment of the people that lived the Life of the First Way, came and interfered with those living a Divine way of Life, having a pigment now described as Black and every since that Time, those other different pigmented Beings chose to be an enemy to the Black pigmented Being and proceeded to destroy a Civilization so constructed by those First Way Beings and have, as it is said, been a thorn in the Mind of Black people every since.

Many Black and Dynamic leaders have emerged from the Family of a once Divine People, always attempting to lead us back to our First way of Living, great leaders from Mena to Akhenaton, to Hannibal to Toussaint to Nat Turner to the Honorable Marcus Garvey, to the present and I am sure there has been many more that fit in between those intervals of Time, Black Leaders fighting for the Liberation of Black people that had been pushed into a caste of bondage seemly to be stuck for ever more, as the Black Mind was and is being continuously replaced with those others mind, that don’t have the same quality of pigment as you Black folks do and have now succeeded to have us Black folks to live a Life that is dictated by a Mind that did not originate within the Pigmented frame of Ebonite Divine Beings.

The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE goal and objective is for a United Afrika and Afrikan People and the Methodology to be used are various one’s and many Black leaders from Time to Time have advocated and tried different methods, but with different goals and objective in mind, which cause difference in approach, thus many Time causing the action to be flawed.

The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE, take the mental position that no one Black leader have the full plan for Black folks Liberation and we must learn to advance the Liberating ideas coming from True Black Nationalist Liberators, forming that Mental Chain of action that is strong enough to pull us back into the First Way of our Divine Living, which will be the cause that bring about our Liberation.

The NCAPL /APL goal and objective is to establish with Afrikan people a Pan-Afrikan Nationalist Liberating relationship with Afrika and Black Afrikan People, meaning our physical return to Afrika, eventually as the next established State in Afrika, is imperative , therefore the call for Pan – Afrikanism of earlier Times, implying trade and investment is not acceptable by The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE, meaning that the establishment of a relationship with Afrika and Black Afrikan people in the Diaspora with no intent of solidifying that relationship by the physical return of the Diaspora Afrikan back to Afrika , such is not an acceptable goal of The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE.

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE states that any effort in regard to Afrika and Afrikan People, must be one of a cohesive dynamic homogenous relationship, a relationship where the Diaspora Afrikan will have the feeling of acceptance by the reception that will be given to the Diaspora in America Afrikan and such acceptance will be consummated by Afrikaans acknowledgement of the Diaspora in America Afrikan, by recognizing our Right as a Sovereign Ethnic Group ,descendants of those that were Enslaved in the institution of Chattel Slavery, now having the right to Afrika Land and to emerge in Afrika as the next established State in Afrika, made up of Diaspora Afrikaans in America.

It is the goal and objective of AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE to replace the call for Pan-Afrikanism with the call for Black Afrikan Nationalism and for a Unified Afrika, which will require the physical return of the Diaspora Afrikan in America back to Afrika as a New State in Afrika.

It is the goal of NCAPL /APL to make it clear that there is a Social-economic stratification between the Negro and Black Nationalist, the negro should be labeled as the one that is among those that Have, ( material possession at a comfortable level ) and the Black Nationalist Spiritualist as the one that is among the have not, ( no material wealth ) identified within the Black Social-economic structure of America, and it is the one that Have, that desire no physical return to Afrika, and those that have and do desire to return home to Afrika, will do so only for Economic enterprise, and gain, contributing to the already problem that now exist in Afrika, there must be a centralization of Afrika and Afrikan people, not based on wealth and property possession, but in establishing a dynamic cohesive relationship with Afrika the land continent and the Black Afrikan People.

The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE will have a Divine focus on the inner body of the Black Being, striving to regain the Divine Knowledge about the Divine Theology of that GODLY Energy.

The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE will be an institution where the goal of the Divine Knowledge is to be obtained, by teaching and meditation, with an objective to reach the various levels of the Conscious dimension, exploring the Spiritual essence of the Mental capacity to interact with the genetic core of the Body essence, the Soul.

The A.P.L headquarters will serve as the Soul to the A.P.L Repatriation / Reparation movement. Serving as the Spiritual arm to the political aspiration of Sankofa Repatriation Movement, whose primary objective will be Reparation, Repatriation and Statehood in Afrika.

The target of our effort will be the rank and file of Black people, those labeled as the disadvantaged among Black People.

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE goal and objective is to re-establish a relationship with the have not of our people and to educate the rank and file of our people about the Social Economic, Religious and Political structure of America and what happen to cause us Black people to be in America and away from Afrika.

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE will educate the rank and file of Black people in America about Reparation, Repatriation and becoming a Nation State in Afrika and about how important it is for Black People to return back to our Divine Status and to be Free and independent from America and how an important role those of us that have been at a disadvantage under the Racist Prejudice system in America.

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE will work to bring into reality the opportunity of Black People in America to participate in a Plebiscite vote, to indicate their desire as to stay in America or return Home to Afrika with our Enslaved Ancestors Reparation and to become the next additional State in Afrika.

Those that desire to help The AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE and would like to sign on to become a Member of AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE in our great effort to conduct a campaign for Freedom and Reparation in the Black Communities , using any and all means to accomplish our mission, which is reclaiming our Divine Spirituality, Reparation, our return back to Afrika, as a New Nation State and to become a Sovereign, Free and Independent Government in Afrika, with the intent of becoming active in bringing about a Reunited Afrika and a Reclamation of our Continent call Afrika.

All Praise and Honor to the Honorable Marcus Garvey.

All True Black Afrikan that is away from home should come to Know and Understand, that there should be only:

ONE AIM, ONE DESTINY, AFRIKA!!!

My People, let us love one another…

 

 

Eliyah X. & Dominique X

Chief Elder & First Queen

African People of Love of Afrikan Origin

Repatriation Movement

Enough is Enough (it’s time to change our ways)

http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/e/16711680/wshhHWa4JZ9JMf1x34Op 

 

 

 

http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/e/16711680/wshhF71O9k6JnGpjCDun 

 

 

The Problem: Wow! These are two different situations but at the end of the day, they both affect African-Americans equally. Being "Black in America" is a subject that I feel deeply about. In order for African-Americans to advance in America, first as a parent you have to teach your child how to grow up in a society where the odds are against you at birth. To stand there and force your child to engage in negative activities is such as a disgrace!

Secondly, as being "Black in America" is a challenge firsthand, how can we expect people to respect us as African-Americans when we don’t respect ourselves, our children, our family’s, our neighborhoods, schools, etc, first!

Imagine, if the mother in the first video took both of the children by hand who were involved in the fight, sat down with both of them, explained to them the challenges African-American’s face, and worked the problem out. Would it even be caught on TV? Probably not!

The point is, what society see African-Americans do they gonna continue to use all those things against us. In the second video, the cop beat the African-American child, which was wrong, but until we as African-Americans stand up and take back our own communities there going to keep doing it, until parents start being parents again & not friends, there gonna keep doing it! In order for society to respect us, we have to respect and value ourselves!

It’s time to stand up Black people!

WANTED LEADERS FOR TOMORROW

WANTED LEADERS FOR TOMORROW
 
Description of Leadership

What we need in our organization are leaders for our African communities

 

We are searching for African Men and Women who desire to be leaders in their African’s African communities, married man, single man, married women, single women, dynamic speakers, who has the will and desire to help with the growth of the vision which has been given to us as an African People of love for our brethern. We are a small African people in a great location. You would be the main speaker for your location. You would be a regular African Love and Unity class teacher.  You should also work closely and encourage each member to be involved in the work here. You should be involved in visiting the sick and the shut-ins. You should be one who is community minded. You should, as you involve yourself in the community, conduct yourself in a way that all will see you as a good example of a loving life style for your African brother and sister.

 

We also need Women Leaders

 

Women who will take time to teach themselves first to walk according to the commandments of African Love; and then our wives to walk likewise according to the faith that is given to us; in charity, and in purity; loving their own husbands with all sincerity, and all others of our faith alike with all temperance; and to bring up their children in the instruction and fear of African Love (God) Php 2:6

 

The above describes our leader’s duties in general. As you know, however, no job description will cover everything. Simply put, we want leaders who have a great love for our God (African Love) and a burning desire to do His will.
Only those who are sincere need apply. Please forward us your resume along with a tape and photo to the following:

AFRICAN PEOPLE OF LOVE FOUNDATION
829 Franklin St. S E Grand Rapids, Michigan 49507-1308
Attn: Search Committee

 

 

What we need in our organization are leaders for African communities, We also need Women Leaders, to teach our young women how to behave as women of love, the love of Sarah. 

Women who will take time to teach themselves first to walk according to the commandments of Love; and then your wives to walk likewise according to the faith that is given to them; in charity, and in purity; loving their own husbands with all sincerity, and all others alike with all temperance; and to bring up their children in the instruction and fear of Love Php 2:6

 

 

 

 

We discovered some critical issues that were signals for change in African people lives.

Issue #1 A ‘collision of vision’ can signal a need for change. "The fundamental issue for me was determining my passion and gifting for African people of righteousness, and that we were not in a place where we were being utilized.

Issue #2 ‘Non-negotiables’ are not negotiable. Are you being asked to do something that is in clear violation of your God-given convictions? Have you talked about it with the leadership of your church (African people)?

Issue #3 ‘Retooling’ We have One young pastor who decided to leave his current ministry because he felt the need for more pastoral education. After being accepted into seminary us, he is moving his family across the country, away from the African people he has grown to know and love. You may be running out of tools in your ministry belt. Do you need to transition to get more education?

Issue #4 ‘Loss of Passion’ Juggling ministry, marriage, the expectations of others, crises, and the ‘performance trap.’ These realities of ministry can be overwhelming. Have you lost sight of the original reason God called you to this place? Are you finding it difficult to get excited in the morning when you get out of bed?

 

Three Critical Questions to Ask When
Considering Another Ministry
(To avoid making a big mistake!)


1. "Do they want me?" Before you spend a lot of time and energy evaluating another situation, find out if they are interested in having you on their ministry team. If possible, get them to identify their intentions with you as a first step in the process. If they are not seriously interested in you, then there is no use in moving forward in your thinking.

2. "Do I want them?" Find out what their expectations are for a pastor and his family. What is their philosophy of ministry and long-term vision? Evaluate their employment package and determine if the salary and benefits meet your families needs. What do current and former leaders say about the organization? Have former pastors left well, or have they tended to go away under a cloud of controversy?

3. "Am I ready to leave?" This is perhaps the most important question because it will help you determine if you are motivated to withdraw from your current circumstances.

One question burns my mind. If we were able to turn over legalization of abortion, regain a society consensus that homosexuality is sin, legalize prayer in the schools, get rid of a president who has embarrassed us in front of the world, pass a law that made it illegal to do a parody on prayer on the public radio waves, or any number of similar objectives, how much closer would we be to fulfilling the Great Commission of winning lost African people to God and His Son? Are we seeking to establish the Kingdom of God (Love) before the Anointed One returns?

I fear that many Christians are more concerned about regaining the power of a majority viewpoint, whether by political power or social pressure, than they are about sharing God’s love for a lost world of sinners, among whom we must number ourselves! Where is the attitude that we see exemplified in Paul as recorded in 1 Tim 1:15? "Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: the Anointed One Yahshua came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst." (NIV)

I am all for civil public debate of the issues, and I have no objective to peaceful protest that deals with the issues. 

But too much of what I have seen of the Christian response, at least at the public level, shows more Pharisaism than it does the love of the Father or His Son Yahshua.

We need to learn how to engage a culture the way Yahshua did, who involved himself socially with those whom the religious folks were looking down on.

Or the way Paul did, who found commonalities with the pagan society in Athens and made his point from there.

Yahshua, God’s Son didn’t call us to make a ‘Christian’ society. That has been tried in Church history more than once with miserable results.

He did call us to share the good news that Yahshua the Anointed One forgives sin and transforms lives. This good news will always be a stumbling block to some.

The cross will remain foolishness to those perishing.

But let’s make sure it is for the gospel that we are stigmatized, not for the pompous moralizing of a self-righteousness that has no basis.